Instructions to Free Yourself From The Victim Mentality

Casualty attitude is a procured (learned) identity characteristic in which a man tends to view him or herself as a casualty of the negative activities of others, and to carry on like it were the situation—even without clear confirmation. It relies upon constant manners of thinking and attribution. 
The term is likewise utilized as a part of reference to the inclination for pointing the finger at one's disasters on another person's offenses, which is additionally alluded to as victimism.[1] 
Casualty mindset is principally learned, for instance, from relatives and circumstances amid youth. It diverges from the mentally better-examined qualities of neuroticism. Neuroticism might be characterized as general enthusiastic flimsiness or a for the most part upgraded propensity to encounter negative feelings. Psychoticism is described by antagonistic vibe and animosity. 
What casualty attitude, neuroticism and psychoticism have in like manner is a moderately high recurrence of negative enthusiastic states, for example, outrage, trouble, and dread.
In simple terms, victim mentality is when someone makes excuses, to define where they are in life, by using past events or misfortunes as the reason they are not where they should be.

Two people may have identical life circumstances and challenges, one choosing to see it as exactly that, a challenge or temporary set back to overcome, where the other sees it as a continuing, life long excuse as to why they will never get where they want to be in life.

“But these events really happened to me, I can’t just forget about them.”

No one said these things didn’t happen to you, nor do you need to forget them. The point here is you have a choice, to either argue for your limitations (the reasons why you can’t be successful) or make a plan to succeed DESPITE the challenges that have entered your life. You can choose the let circumstances define your life, or you can use them as fuel and determination to succeed despite them.

“Successful people have it easy, they don’t know my struggle / they don’t know real struggle.”

Let’s not generalize and pigeon hole every successful person. If you do your research, you will find the vast majority of truly successful people, started with nothing and struggled their way to success!

Successful people do not fall out of the sky and land in a lovely rainbow full of gold bullion. If you ask 99% of successful people how they achieved their dream life, and I can assure you the story will be the same:

They worked harder than the majority.

They kept going when the majority gave up.

They suffered through failure, but made sure that was not the end, rather a lesson learned.

They went through hell, but always focused on the end goal.

Only a very small percentage of humans understand this. Very few respect the successful and their hard work, sacrifice and dedication.

Sadly most people would rather argue for their limitations, rather than KNOW there are no limitations.