This is what you need to remember when they choose not to forgive you.

There are times when we hurt others. Whether intentionally or unintentionally, makes little difference. We have been hurt again by our own actions, so we are trying to reform them. It hurts us to know that we have hurt another. We seek forgiveness and seek to restore hope in obtaining the grace of sin.

Hopefully get the best result. Hopefully what we consider true.

But sometimes, we do not get pardon, no matter how sorry we are. It does not matter how much we try and do things correctly. It is difficult to accept, it is hard to abandon the injustice we feel about not receiving the forgiveness we had hoped for.

But that's what we need to remember.

Their forgiveness is not your responsibility.

Your responsibility is: Recognize your mistakes. To own your shares. To ask forgiveness to straighten things as much as you can. Leave things that you can not. Learn, grow, and know for yourself behaviors that hurt and change others. Choose consciously to be a better person and take the necessary steps to do so.

But their forgiveness is not your responsibility.